THE man of the house is often in charge of rules and discipline. But more than a keeper of harmony among family members, fathers are also a keeper of traditions — of both ordinary and extraordinary activities that the family does together. Whether it’s passing on the recipe of a favorite dish, teaching a well-loved hobby, sport or skill, taking the kids to a favorite restaurant that their own parents used to take them to, or simply letting today’s generation experience the fun of playing outdoors, these all reflect how significant a father’s influence is in molding one’s personality.
In celebration of Father’s Day, some Cebuano dads share how important it is to let their children experience the same things in life they have enjoyed.
For Carlo Borromeo, co-founder and creative director of Mavericks Ideas and guitarist of post-punk band Purple Helmets, living in the same place he grew up in lets him reminisce the good old days with his kids, Sergie, 13, and Leo, eight.
“We are fortunate enough to be living in the same compound that I did as a kid growing up, so my kids get to play in the same garden as I did, climb the same trees that I did, hang out with my grandmother the same way that I did. All summer long, my boys have been able to play soccer in the same garden where I played when I was their age.”
The fundamentals that have made Insoy Niñal, columnist and editor, university professor, and singer-songwriter of the band Missing Filemon, what he is today are the things he is now sharing with his sons, Ulan and Buhawi, even at their young age.
“I encourage my two sons, ages four and two, to listen to music and read books. I expose them to great bands like The Beatles, Queen, Nirvana, Eraserheads, Apo Hiking Society and other musicians who influenced me. Sorry, but no tugsh-tugsh for them. Then Sundays and before bedtime, I read to them. I want my children to share with me my love for music and the printed word.”
Exploring the world through adventure is one thing that Mark Deutsch, artist, writer and co-founder of design studio and creative hub Happy Garaje, loves to do with her daughter, Summer.
“My wife, Johanna, Summer and I love the outdoors. We make it to a point to be at the beach as often as possible. On regular days, we spend time by reading picture books and comics. When my wife is not around or busy with work at the studio, Summer and I would sneak outside and play with dirt (don’t tell her mom).