Readers imagine what kind of dads they would become
Text: Joyce Villaflor & Martie de Castro
STC Mass Comm Interns
Image: Associated Press
FATHERS indeed play an important role in the growth of a child and in raising a family, the most basic unit of any society. What the child will become in the future is greatly affected and influnced by the principles, ideals, and even interests of the dad, something that will still hold true for this generation’s future fathers.
Forward-looking millennials share with SunStar Weekend their thoughts on what kind of dads they would like to be when that life-changing moment of fatherhood finally arrives.
Jeff Cabrera, 18
“Imagining myself becoming a dad, I might be just a typical dad who would reinforce rules and curfew for the safety of my children. Being a film enthusiast, creating a documentary video for my kids from months old to year one is my goal. Watching movies together is a kind of jam I want to do with my family.
“I will support my children in their hobbies and help them develop their creative side. I will teach them how to use cameras and to always gather photographs in the photo albums, the old school way. I want my children to remember me as a kind of dad who’s passionate in keeping physical memories, in any way they could always look back and replay.”
Jayson P. Tan, 20
“I’d be a fun and loving father to my kids. I will raise them right and guide them so they will become good individuals. I will make them enjoy life and teach them how to appreciate what they have. As a dancer, I’d like them to have a talent of their own, something they’ll love and be passionate about. I want my kids to be passionate in doing the things they love and to always be kind to others. I’ll encourage them to make new friends, play, laugh and live the life they want.”
Ralph Andre D. Flores, 22
“When I become a Dad, my teachings will be based on four important things. First is to teach him or her the value of money, its importance in this world, its pros and cons, and how to properly utilize it. Second would be the value of patience — the patience to wait for the perfect opportunity, the patience to take everything slowly but surely and the patience to wait in God’s perfect time. Third would be the power of knowledge — to teach him or her that whatever he or she will do, the priority is to gain knowledge whether it is by reading a book, asking questions or experiencing it. I would want to teach him or her that the greatest knowledge comes from our mistakes and failures. Lastly and probably the most important would be the freedom to choose. I want to give them the power to choose and make their own decisions. I want their lives to be their own design, and it is my duty to give them these opportunities, to guide them on the possible effects of their choices and to show them I will always be here for them.
“I think these four things would give them the full leverage on propelling their lives and prepare them for the future.”
Jerus Ortiz, 27
Digital Marketing Specialist/
“When a man becomes a father, everything will change and a have a new purpose. Fathers become punching bags, leaders, babysitters, friends, providers, and the list goes on. They will eventually live less for themselves and more for their family. Anyone can be a father, but it takes a lot of time and hard work to be a good one. It takes countless sacrifices, mistakes, and a lot of trial and error.
“When the time comes when I have kids of my own, I want to be a best friend dad. We all know that our best friends are the ones we share most about ourselves, our time, our interests, our problems and even secrets.
Like my father, he was also like a best friend to us, his children. Most of time, he was always interested on what we do, playing musical instruments, basketball, video games, and a lot of other things until we got all grown up. We may argue sometimes, but in the end he always tells us great advice to last a lifetime.
“As a future father, I believe that having this kind of relationship with my kids would be more meaningful and fun.”
Fervi B. Kwek, 32
Clinical Instructor/Basketball Coach
“When the time comes that I will be the head of the family, I will be the type of father who is both supportive and assertive. Supportive in the sense that whatever my children want to be in the future, I will be their number one cheerleader motivating them as they pursue their dreams.
Another thing is I will be assertive in a positive way. I will encourage them to be bold and fearless in their endeavors. Afterall, the best teacher will always be reflective experience. Whatever happens in the end whether they triumph or fail, I will always be that father who will embrace them, tap their shoulders and telling them: ‘I am proud of you.’”